This post is on something which I have gone through. I really don't know about the other places but the place I lived in has this peculiar behavior.
Now comes the experience part....... actually its not just one single experience.
When I was small that means 9-14 years whenever I went to a shop if that person is an acquaintance then he would talk to me call me gudiya(doll) and all that.
This used to happen always. But when I grew up and became some 15 16 yrs old the same person doesn't even talk to me. Now here I would like to say i surely don't want him to call me gudiya. But he can be as free as before. No, its not that I crave for attention its just that I feel no need to accept the unnecessary change.
I really think that's awful to behave differently with someone just because of age.
Then what I just used to sit there talking to my parents. Now another thing is the girls who have a habit of talking so much are labeled characterless girls.Huh! I really don't get that how can someone be characterless( that type) just because of talking to someone.
All these things which is because of the dire inquisitiveness of the society and as I always say If society accepts then all will be accepted. Don't you think some rules of the society are really stopping it from reaching the sky and rather pulling it down to the deep depth.
Don't you think so?
Tuesday, July 29, 2008
Friday, July 25, 2008
Parents and sex.............!!!!
Today's topic is a very sensitive one. So let me start with the incident itself.
This incident took place in KV. We were as usual sitting at our common place. So as always a serious topic came over. Now that day it was about sex. When we started talking off it, one of my close friends said "I don't like that, it reduces respect to my parents an my brother(recently married), its immoral".
Now how can I explain to her she was also born due to this so called immoral act.
Not only her many of my friends thought so that sex is bad and once children are born parents should not engage in that. I really don't get that. Are parents just servants to take care of children. Don't they have their own life.
Now another point, the girl also said I sleep with my mom and my dad sleeps in a separate room. Now its not necessary that they always have sex, they can talk of some serious family matters too.
This is where I think the holy relationship of husband and wife is made unholy. When God has united them who are we to separate them.
This incident took place in KV. We were as usual sitting at our common place. So as always a serious topic came over. Now that day it was about sex. When we started talking off it, one of my close friends said "I don't like that, it reduces respect to my parents an my brother(recently married), its immoral".
Now how can I explain to her she was also born due to this so called immoral act.
Not only her many of my friends thought so that sex is bad and once children are born parents should not engage in that. I really don't get that. Are parents just servants to take care of children. Don't they have their own life.
Now another point, the girl also said I sleep with my mom and my dad sleeps in a separate room. Now its not necessary that they always have sex, they can talk of some serious family matters too.
This is where I think the holy relationship of husband and wife is made unholy. When God has united them who are we to separate them.
Monday, July 21, 2008
Illegitimate huh!!!!
This is an issue about which I really feel very bad. Why is the child made to suffer a lot when he/she is not born of a marriage. Why do people call that child a bas***d. It has become a common bad word, a word to insult someone.
When I was small that means in the middle school some of my friends used to say that word and so I also started saying that word. But I soon stopped that on my parents' correction.
Actually many people say that knowingly or unknowingly. I don't blame people for that because some of them don't even know its meaning.
The thing what actually matters here is our perspective. Whats wrong in being illegitimate. There is life, there is feeling and the most important there is love. Now a point which comes here is we think marriage is necessary but can't those standards which we made be changed. Yes, they can be but no one just has the courage. Not even the people in big positions,as they also think as the society thinks. Here let me make a point clear that I am not against marriages. But those who did not marry and had a child for them can't the rules be changed. Is that child not a human?
I really don't understand why people don't accept such children. When the child is at no fault at all.
When I was small that means in the middle school some of my friends used to say that word and so I also started saying that word. But I soon stopped that on my parents' correction.
Actually many people say that knowingly or unknowingly. I don't blame people for that because some of them don't even know its meaning.
The thing what actually matters here is our perspective. Whats wrong in being illegitimate. There is life, there is feeling and the most important there is love. Now a point which comes here is we think marriage is necessary but can't those standards which we made be changed. Yes, they can be but no one just has the courage. Not even the people in big positions,as they also think as the society thinks. Here let me make a point clear that I am not against marriages. But those who did not marry and had a child for them can't the rules be changed. Is that child not a human?
I really don't understand why people don't accept such children. When the child is at no fault at all.
Saturday, July 19, 2008
Bad vs Worse!!!!
Today I am going to compare bad with worse and you have to choose your one option and tell me why.
An adult channel started being aired in a small city. Many people went to the cable operator talking about the impact it would have on the children watching it.
And soon it was removed.
When one of the famous actors(female)did a bold role in a film many other stars came up to the media criticizing her. Saying how could she do this. Its against the culture and so on.
But in both the cases what I would like to say to the concerned is more than an adult channel or a bold role, the things which have a bad impact on children or are against our culture are cheating other people to fill own pockets, making others feel inferior on the basis of the so called caste system, taking a human life, gender bias, treating some jobs down market, showing pride, giving importance to only moneyed people and many more such things which many people do without feeling a single prick of conscience.
Its just really awful to have such thinking.
note: its just comparison of bad with worse not good with bad.
An adult channel started being aired in a small city. Many people went to the cable operator talking about the impact it would have on the children watching it.
And soon it was removed.
When one of the famous actors(female)did a bold role in a film many other stars came up to the media criticizing her. Saying how could she do this. Its against the culture and so on.
But in both the cases what I would like to say to the concerned is more than an adult channel or a bold role, the things which have a bad impact on children or are against our culture are cheating other people to fill own pockets, making others feel inferior on the basis of the so called caste system, taking a human life, gender bias, treating some jobs down market, showing pride, giving importance to only moneyed people and many more such things which many people do without feeling a single prick of conscience.
Its just really awful to have such thinking.
note: its just comparison of bad with worse not good with bad.
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