Monday, October 27, 2008

The Purity...

I have seen many times in front of my eyes but never understood the reason behind this issue of mine.


Let me share with you all one of my experiences on this issue.


A friend of mine was being constantly asked for friendship by a boy of my class. She also wanted to be his friend as she thought he was a very good boy, but… I don’t know what stopped her from accepting the offer.
Anyway this was her own choice I don’t blame her for that, but I do blame her for the thing she did after that...she went to him the very next day and tied him a Rakhi.



I really respect the relationship between a brother and sister it is one of the purest and the sweetest relationships between a boy and a girl, but I do think that the relationship of friendship between a boy and a girl is also one of the purest relationships we have on this Earth.



Why should we always search for purity in a brother-sister relationship,Is that not a wrong notion of ours?


Don’t friendships have the same sweetness and purity that is found in a brother sister relationship.



Why this pretension and mix up?



Please think it out...

40 comments:

lukkydivz said...

ummmmmmm i too tied rakhis to many guys of my class :P no comments!

Hemanth Potluri said...

give me little time pls..:(..

urs..hemu..

Prashant Sree said...

A good question being raised. I dont know the real psychology behind this, yet to where i can comprehend it, this is my take on it.

I think that when a Boy or a girl accepts other as a Brother or a Sister,its a human psychology to avoid bad thoughts about the other person. For instance suppose a girl likes a boy and the boy is interested in her, but the girl is in a situation where she does not want to accept the boys advancement of being a friend , in this dilemma, making the guy as her brother will help her solve the dilemma easily. So even if she gets interested, she can tell herself that the guy is her bro, so she should behave in a particular way.
which might not be the case in case of friendship...

And with regards to friendship between a boy and a girl, i believe
all relations are fine as long as they are based on mutual respect,faith and love for each other. If any of this misses, then maybe the relations have to be rethought upon .,.

Hope the answer made some sense.,.

Regards,

Prashant Sree
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vishesh said...

hmm....yup,i don't see why...

Kartz said...

Hmmm... I would say- mentality. It all boils down to how one thinks. The thought process...

Back after a hiatus. Off again... Hectic days ahead. :( Will catch up on any unread post soon...

Peace.

Keshi said...

FEAR of society. Thats what drives ppl to do things like this. Its very sad!

Ur 100% correct. A r'ship doesnt hv to be forced to be bro n sis...just accept it the way it is!

Keshi.

Karthik said...

May b she shd've thought love mite b the next approach of him thru friendship (which he is nt meant to).. So she wud've tied Rakhi!!! Even Girls of my class, during skol days, when they move on with a guy friendly, her/his frnds used to tease there s smething goin on btween them!! And the nxt day, the girl comes wit a rakhi!!!

Aparna said...

I always faced the same question......why i have to call someone brother, if I am not interested in accepting him in any other way..does that make any sense...No I think...you can make one brother or friend only on basis of what you feel and what the relationship and I feel just dressing it up with a name to avoid certain things is......well meaningless..if only we can realize in doing so.we bring down the actual purity of those relationships

Aparna said...

by the way....happy Diwali :)

Kiran Sawhney said...

Very rightly said. agree with you 100 %

Aneesh said...

This is an individual thing.
purity of relation, as you said, can be in any relation.
But certain people think that purity is only in bro-sis relationship, it's their problem and they think the friendship move can be stopped by tying rakhi.... maybe it works for them..
:)

prajyot said...

well it sometimes happnes a lot many times...i would say its a social stress than mental stress.

most of the times what happnes is mind reacts to own act but the same mind doesnot react to the social enclosure of teasing and irritation.

Vinz aka Vinu said...

its sometimes funny ..the rakhi thing..

two of friends who tied rakhi had now chosen them to be their life partner..!!

interesting na..
:)

Prici said...

Its really funny.. Bro sis r'ship s now used only for security purposes.

Saranya said...

I agree wit u priya. There is no need to look for a pure and sweet relationship only btw bro n sis. lol, it sounds funny too. It can be in any relationship...and it totally depends on individuals and how they keep their perception of things!

An alien Earthling said...

Because of the nasty feudal mindset of Indian society, any friendship between a boy and a girl is viewed with suspicion. This leads to an unhealthy segregation of young people on the basis of gender which is not good at all.

Priya Joyce said...

@ lukky:

Tumne to mujhe bhi chup karva diya re
:)

Priya Joyce said...

@ hemanth:

hmmm k given

Priya Joyce said...

@ prashant :

Hmmm..!! I liked that answer actually.

Just one small doubt...u hav used a phrase "bad thoughts" hmmm do u think love for a gal/boy cumes in bad thots????

or else wat do u mean?

Priya Joyce said...

@ vish:

hehe gud..Try finding out the reason..

Priya Joyce said...

@ kartz:

yupp mentality rules!!

Priya Joyce said...

@ keshi:

yes society..damn society..

I am happy that you agree.
:)

Priya Joyce said...

@ karthik:

yupp she mite hav thot tat way...but If i were in her place then I wudn't make such a boy my bro also..

Priya Joyce said...

@ aparna:

I cumpletely agree with wat u said...yes all this is just a dress up..they feel else in mind..and y to make such guy's brothers who can't be friends.

Priya Joyce said...

@ aparna:

oops I too forgot like u..thanx for the wishes dear

Priya Joyce said...

@ kiran:

hey thanx
:)

Priya Joyce said...

@ aneesh:
hehe yupp may be it works for them ah!
watever they try love and friendship can't be hidden...
tats it

Priya Joyce said...

@ prajyot:

hmmm never thot of it tat way..good point

Priya Joyce said...

@ vinu:

hehe tat has happened in my vicinity too..ha it is funny + a li'l hypocritical coz they didn't do or respect the bro sis relationship then.

Priya Joyce said...

@ prici:

hehe yupp lol on tat

Priya Joyce said...

@ saranya:

yupp
:)
thanx

Priya Joyce said...

@ an alien A E:

hmmm yes tats wat happens actually...so u r tying to say the perception of these things in our society is wrong...??

I'll try 2 be truthful said...

their are some people ( i call them weirdos) for whom any member of the opp. sex who is not a gf / wife has to be a sibling!!
I feel if u are really not attracted or interested just use the word 'platonic' instead of 'bhaiyaa'

Selerines said...

Nice question!!! Using the Sister-Brother relationship as a arm to get rid of some problems is not acceptable.... Girl or Boy should be straight forward in these kind of things....

Suresh Kumar said...

Friendship has more sweetness. We can discuss more things freely with friends of the other gender on certain issues than with friends of the same gender. That's what I feel.

But sometimes, I do feel some friendship goes overboard. I will put a question back to you.

My friend say S is committed to A. Is it Ok for him to go to a movie with another girl say B. They say they are true friends and nothing more than that. Is it really OK? How would the girl take it if she sees them together coming out of the movie?. I feel it's ok, but still somewhere i have doubts.

brocasarea said...

modern indian mentality!!..cant help!

Priya Joyce said...

@ amrita:

yupp true weirdos
agreed

Priya Joyce said...

@ shiva:

yes this is kindaa hypocrisy

Priya Joyce said...

@ suresh:

yupp true frnds of opp sex r more trustworthy wth certain things..


as per ur question

I wud say It all depends on the level of understanding b/w the gal and the guy...if she can't just trust him with these things then its better that they break up..

but their's other side too ..the guy can be kindaa weirdo..who likes to be with many gals...in tat case she wud be rite if she misunderstands..

Priya Joyce said...

@ Brocasarea:

This is traditional mentality friend..as per ma views..