Monday, November 10, 2008

Parents slaves..we slaves...huh!

These days we usually see that when kids grow up and start earning..or are married.they just want their parents to be at any old age home...Its very very bad ..but the young generation has no feelings for them they just mind their own business..and think that its better that one or two members are less...they save money.....have such people ever thought that if their parents thought like them then they would have been be no where.. Ahh!! I sound too unpractical na?? huh!



But that is not my issue.....my issue has two sides ..



I say that parents should be respected and loved ..but do you think we should be slaves...



Yes I have seen homes where even after the kids have grown up..all the decisions are taken by the grandfather and he's still the head of the family..yes he is..but I really feel that the grandparents should now leave the household responsibilities to their children.



you can put forth your opinions too.

24 comments:

Aparna said...

:) first issue...........well one cannot make them understand that until they become elderly one day..........life is not all that easy.......some parents take a ride of their children in old age some children abandon them .....i ahve seen both cases practically, involved in certain situation in reality...both sides need to take a step orward to understand their unique relationship.......yes we take this bond for granted but indeed it is.....I guess the secon issue is also covered....if a granpa is riding on you........you can simply put forth and make him understand you are old enough......and it won't be successful unless he gets the point and sometimes you can pay attention to what they say........sometimes I have known that my granny is matured enough to know certain things and look at them in a different way than I tend to..........if I can see that....i can help myself instead of a clash.........

yeha pe kaun galthiya nahi kartha
rishton mein to saare hi hai bekaar
Par Zamana chaltha nahin ise chalana padtha hai
pure dil se kabhi kabhi tode imaandari se......

vishesh said...

i agree with you :)

Vamsi said...

Hey,Its not about slavery really..
@1st para..yes it's a pity when they don't care about those who do care about them..It happens everywhere not just between parents and kids.
@2nd Para..
Sometimes involvement of elders puts things in order but again its a personal choice of the individual to ascertain their individuality.:)

Paul Matthew said...

In any society there is an age where independence is a must. Without it I believe self confidence can decrease and eventual anger will arise. With age comes maturity, with maturity comes the want for growing knowledge, and with the want for growing knowledge comes eventual want of independence or distance from one's family.
Maybe its a southern United States thing, but indepedence is craved and adored here. Grandparents are only the head of a household if they are of Italian Mob decent..........and yes...we do have those here......

Keshi said...

This is such a good post...an eye-opener for many.

Yes some parents and grandparents (most Desi & SL parents) make their kids slaves...slaves to family, traditions and society. And thats awful. When kids r grown up, they should be allowed to make their own decisions, instead of treating them like overgrown bimbos!

Keshi.

Aneesh said...

well, I agree.
It has two sides. In some homes, parents send their kids to boarding school sending just money and will be busy earning money. I don't know how those kids behave when they grow up. May be they'll put their parents in old age home and sent just money.
But, its sad that some people just follows it like a habit 'coz someone else did it. Good post
:)

Kiran Sawhney said...

right balance needs to be stuck. parents deserve respect and children deserve love. They should live in harmony mutually. None should suffocate each other's life.

Alien said...

As long as people respect each other as individuals and don't intrude too much into another's personal space, there should be no problems.

Priya Joyce said...

@ aparna:
I completely agree with ur comment..as always..but the lines which really impress me are the last ones..yes no one is perfect with relationships...really very true..facts fail before attitudes

Priya Joyce said...

@ vish:

:)

Priya Joyce said...

@ vamsi:

yeah! kindaa..but everyoe needs their space..tat's it
btw welcome here

Priya Joyce said...

@ paul:
that's very true..I agree...here in India only this happens..but but but the freedom u get in us..it has side effects too..

do ya agree?

Priya Joyce said...

@ keshi:

yeah yes it reely is awful..and it can't be tolerated..

Priya Joyce said...

@ aneesh:

yeah these days a lot of probs occur coz wen the children wer young the parents did not give them tym...and yeah many ppl just copy others too its kindaa trend now..
:)

Priya Joyce said...

@ kiran:
yupp very true..just everyone needs their space..all is fine then

Priya Joyce said...

@ alien:

yes both need to respect each other to make all fine
:)

prajyot said...

hey priya..m bec..cool post

nikkita said...

having been witnessed both the situations practically all i can say is that both need to talk it through...the so called communication gap exists just because may be we do not ty and put any efforts to it...
i understand its not the easiest possible solution..but then this could be an option..afterall its about wining the person not the argument...!!!

cheerz!

nikkita said...

BTW updated my blog

Prashant Sree said...

I believe tat could be an understatement... Regarding the concern raised,i dont think Slave will be an appropriate word to describe that... Its the case of the elder's supporting their kids in the family. The issue exist mostly because, the elder feels that his son/daughter might leave him and go. Hence they are reluctant to give freedom to their child and this continues even when the kid becomes an adult.

As noted here, mutual love and respect , will bring in harmony and happiness within the family...

Diva said...

Well, evryone here has discussed and stood by just one side of the argument... Let me show the new side to it!!!
If you really go deep into this subject, you will realise that parents who do not stop smothering their kids even after they grow up, are rigid only on the outside!!! The inside of them still thinks that their son/daughter is still a KID and they are so protective n insecure that they want to make sure that their loved kids do not take any wrong descisions, which to young generation like us, becomes an intrusion!!!
But I think any relation in the world can be made good by being frank and understanding to each other... If we(kids and parents) talk it out, then we'd know that in all that bullying, lies hidden the insecure-love and over-concern of our parents/grandparents!!!! :) :)

Cheers
Diva
http://mywatan.blogpsot.com

Priya Joyce said...

@ nikku:

yupp a talk and kind of understanding can reely change..

hmm yepp I'll chk tat out re
:)

Priya Joyce said...

@ prashant

hmmm understatement I reely don't think so...oops I am being kindaa rude,,,but I feel the first case the children seem to be ruling over and the second the parents seem to be ruling over...so the word is apt..re
:)

Priya Joyce said...

@ diva:

so don't u think the parents shud understand that as they want that as they are parents and mature their kids shud also be...mature...their over interference and such stuffs will make them dependable and then what...u know

so wat say?