Friday, July 4, 2008

No Freedom..............

Many Parents especially of the girls I have seen they don’t allow their children to talk to the opposite sex. Here I don’t say that parents should allow anything or everything. I don’t mean either that the parents should not allow their children to experience liberty.
The best example I can think of here is, there was a girl in my class whose dad and mom didn’t even allow taking notes from boys. Her dad used to send kind of bodyguards with her wherever she went. Now one day when a new boy came to our class she was just mad after him. She tried to talk and on friendship day gave him one friendship band. He just wanted to have fun so he accepted it. She told her parents that she was going for tuition and went with him for a date right in class ten. She failed in the quarterly exams.
If her parents had taught her to be normal human being and not to be scared of boys then she would not have got so mad after him as she would have taken him as any other boy. After all getting attracted is biological.
Such parents think children will lose path if they give them freedom.
But instead I think if freedom is there and parents trust there children then children will surely show responsibility.

18 comments:

joiedevivre said...

firstly goin on a date is not a crime, to like sumone is not against voilation of laws and to get attracted towards opposite sex is a normal human behaviour.

this is age where people xperince such things,parents just need to take it litely...and a gud conversation is a must between parents and children,,,so dat dey dnt take any wrong steps.
These thigs haapen wid almost 99.9% childrens...so just chill!!

Nithin Jayan said...

Well…once God created life…’der was just one ‘adam’ n one ‘eve’…he didn’t actually produce a post called friendship between man n woman…(chk dis girls friends n girlfriends)…so as u said…attraction is biological…
INFATUATION N CRUSHES r rules n musts…(shobna ,don’t say u don’t agree..i’ll kink u ;-))
So de parent’s role…level of understandin is a must…if a parent(esp.dad) really knows his kid…he won’t creep into his kid’s inbox..chk out “missed “calls…
A degree of control is essential..but de theory is “control -directly proportional 2 –spontaneous outbursts from youth”…yeah it’s a fact…lozz n lozz of eg. Right from my own experiences…I have pals who r too ruthlessly being ‘checked’ on by parents (and 2 b specific some ‘extra ordinarily alarmed’ brothers) …sum r forced 2 switch of mobiles once they go home 4 a vacataion…de fact is 80% of them hav already fallen in luv…few hav even ‘crossed limits’…so can’t blame kids alone…parents gotta b sensible too…they hav der responsibilities of course but should decide de safe levels…
Another strange thing I noticed is (I don’t currently hav a scientific proof!!!) de tendency of luv affairs n luv marriages ‘running’ in families…
’genes’ have a role I think…!!! I have noticed this wid my own eyes…If parent’s had luv marriages….den de probability 4 kids 2 take de same path is becoming common (one such marriage occurred very recently in my vicinity…!!!)
‘DATE’ IN CLASS TEN…?yupp…cooool…;-) oh I luv my hometown…!!! Evolution hasn’t exposed de dark side yet!!!

shobhna said...

Thanks neha but I dont say that date is wrong I only say failing in exams due to a date which is not going to turn into a serious relationship is wrong.

shobhna said...

Nithin:
thanks good comment

joiedevivre said...

shobna i mentioned dere in my comment
"so dat dey dnt take any wrong steps."
dat means dey shudnt ignore studies..wich is a must..

Solitaire said...

I am much much older to you and this was the case during my times.

There was no such thing as "dating" in India at that time. I turned out fine!

I don't think it would be right to blame one set of parents for what happened to the girl. There are many other factors that we may not know about that we should consider.

joiedevivre said...

hey i hav blogrolled u!

shobhna said...

Thanx neha u r so nice to me. Frnds?

shobhna said...

Ye sol u r right
Thanx

Hemanth Potluri said...

to be frank ...the parents r rite uptill a certain level ...but wen u cross the limit parents get worried and they start restricting u nature with the opp sex...

i dont say dating is good thing...but to know the person whom u want to make a relation ....u can know him in other ways but keep dating as just a option...


to be frank i speak with my collegues ..but never went to date with anyone so i dint exactly come to know wat it means...


btw its a veery good post ...loved to know few things...

Hemanth Potluri said...

Hey shobhna i have blogrolled u ....Keep smiling...


urs..hemu..

shobhna said...

Thanks hemanth happy blogrolled me.

Keep coming

Aneesh said...

The parents might have some bitter experience or have heard about stories about kids having freedom going way beyond what's allowed. So, they don't want to happen that to their own kids. For some, it work out, For some it won't.

shobhna said...

Thanks for the comment and compliment.

Saranya said...

I agree with the last line that if parents show trust to their children, they ll surely reflect responsibility. Good post again:)

shobhna said...

Thanx saranya for the nice comment.

CutePooja said...

if girls n guys are allowed to interact with one another, they will learn to behave normally in eachothers presence...about dating n stuff, i have no issues with that until n unless it starts affecting ur life negatively...everyone gets attracted..it's normal...curbing natural tendencies will only lead 2 disaster...

shobhna said...

@ pooja
Ye buddy I am also saying the same that people should be allowed to interact.
but should dates take place at the tender age of 15 keeping board exams at stake.
another thing is that my post was to say that parents who allow their children to talk to the opp sex then those children dont get dumbfounded when they get attracted to someone. they just think that to be a mere crush.