Saturday, July 5, 2008

Ultimate Settlement...........????

I often see that for many not all of the Indians have a wrong idea that marriage is the ultimate settlement in life. This idea is very often for girls and less often for boys. There is a good example for this case also.
The place where I was in till now gives me a very good example to show this.
There was a girl in my neighbourhood. After she completed her twelfth her mom started searching for a groom but she continued study so that no one should say anything. She did her B.A from a nearby college. This means that study was just a means to be saved from the people’s bad comments but ultimately marriage is perfect settlement for them.

Now what I feel about such issues is why does a girl need some help for leading her life. I say this because when we talk of girls, life partner is not a partner but a support to the helpless women but when we talk of a man’s life partner its somebody needed to look after the house and cook food for him. WHY?

14 comments:

Shruti said...

Hey I have als thot abt it many times true it is. good post

Hemanth Potluri said...

good post liked wat u tried to explain ...its true fact that many think that gettin married may lead the life to settlement which is a rong thing....first the settlement should be done from our side...first we should have a source through which we should be able to cope up then the word marriage should come into picture....

its good to open the eyes ....


urs.hemu..

shobhna said...

Thanks shruti
welcome to ma blog

shobhna said...

thanks hemanth:
Thanks 4 the comment.

PAL said...

I luvd all your posts they r just amazing I never thought someone will write this. really gud.

shobhna said...

Thanx pal keep coming.

joiedevivre said...

family background n attitutde of parents is more responsible for dis...i hav seen people who literally get baised wid dere kids..
ladke ko english medium mein n ladki ko hindi medium mein padate hai

Nithin Jayan said...

dis time letz get 2 war dear, c'mon fight me ;-) de battle of sexes!!!

de last para, i believe requires 2 b updated as per current trends ...yeah der may b a large part of de country still clinging on 2 such age old misconceptions...but things r changing dear...real fast..(n furious?? he he)

I don't understand y u gals yourself type in 'helpless women'...a lack of confidence...?

We men do respect u people...no more(at least 2 a large extent) r wives restricted 2 handle Prestige Pressure cookers...but r earning members...(at least here...a large part of my luvly state)

And shobz dear...u sure der aren't girls who really require sum help....? oh god wer r de smileys...?i need one ;-)

Aneesh said...

Yah, it was a belief, it's now changing though. 'coz some time back women won't go for jobs and all, they used to stay at home, now it's certainly changing and the proof is you people.

shobhna said...

ye neha tum bilkul sahi kehe rahi ho. I agree.
Thanx again ma dear poetess buddy

shobhna said...

@ nithin If girls r treated like u boys frm the beginning itself I doubt they would need any help. niway thanx

shobhna said...

@ aneesh ye its true that world is changing but large part still has to be changed.
Thanx again

CutePooja said...

I agree with Nithin n aneesh...
the world is changing for the better...change doesn't occur over night...
it will take time...but a transformation will occur...

shobhna said...

@ pooja
k k but till the world changes we'll all be gone.